10 ways to be junior's best role model

The best way to teach your tyke positive values is to be a great role model…

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1) Be a loving couple

Children first learn about romantic relationships when they see their parents in action. A strong relationship built on trust and respect are essentials you want your child to develop. It’s important to display these values with your spouse, so that your children can see them in action and emulate them, notes marriage and family therapist Dr Hana Ra Adams.

Sons learn how to treat women and daughters learn how to be treated by men when they observe how their dads treat their mums and vice versa. So, manage conflict with your spouse in a positive manner.

2) Avoid lying

Being honest with our children encourages them to be honest with us, Dr Adams notes.

That said, every parent is guilty of telling a white lie now and again, like telling their mini-me that the toy store is about to close, so as to pry them out sooner. Families for Life blogger Tan Chin Hock, 38, dad to Charleen, 3 months, Celine, 3, and Charmaine, 5, pleads guilty to this. If caught red-handed, however, he says he explains the truth to his children as best he can.

He says, “A lie leads to another lie and I want to avoid giving my children the impression that lying and being unrepentant after being caught are acceptable behaviours.”

3) Don’t yell

When you are about to react negatively to your tot’s aggravating behaviour, walk away or take a deep breath to calm yourself down. “Yelling doesn’t help your child to listen,” Dr Adams points out. “They tune out the noise and the tendency is for you to become louder to get their attention, which doesn’t help anything other than your blood pressure to rise.” 

“A lie leads to another lie and I want to avoid giving my children the impression that lying and being unrepentant after being caught are acceptable behaviours.”

Responding only after you’ve calmed down will show junior not to react negatively and also teach coping strategies for stressful situations.

4) Be an early riser

Waking up early gives you more hours to accomplish all your tasks. This recipe for success is an easy one to pass down to your brood. A bonus: It gives the family a chance to sit down and enjoy breakfast — the most important meal of the day — together. 

Read on for six more tips to Your Kid’s Top Role Model!