MUM SAYS Coping with a surprise third child

Joyce J Chansingh details the roller-coaster of emotions she faced welcoming an unplanned third child.

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I had always planned to have two children, and it was a pretty breezy transition to go from one to two. So, finding myself pregnant with an unplanned third child was, in brutal honesty, more woe than joy, especially since my eldest was sitting for his PSLE and my other child was still in diapers.

         However, one rainy afternoon, I found myself sitting on the toilet bowl, clutching a stick I’d just peed on. I was utterly stunned by the unmistakable double blue line. This unexpected baby news more or less put paid to my grand plans of launching a lifestyle photography business. Nonetheless, my husband and I quickly accepted the news in dizzy disbelief and reminded each other to count our blessings.

I didn’t itch to track our baby’s growth every week and even lost track of its gestation period a couple of times.

          It’s true, by the way, when people say that third-time mothers-to-be tend to act “bo chap” (Hokkien for “being indifferent”). Unlike my previous pregnancies, I didn’t itch to track our baby’s growth every week and even lost track of its gestation period a couple of times.

          Between organising activities to entertain a rambunctious toddler and helping a pre-teen prepare for his PSLE, the only prep I made for baby #3 was to make sure I never missed one of my prenatal foot massages. Of course, I also prayed for a healthy, happy, as well as a decent-looking baby!

        Although our little amigo arrived two weeks early, our first week at home as a family of five turned out well. Baby Jonas didn’t just eat well and sleep soundly, our two older kids were eager to help with their new baby brother. So, I thought I had it all figured out…

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Photo: J Judisun Photography