Your little one’s personality is the result of nature and nurture. While your genes play a part in deciding her innate traits, baby’s living environment and your parenting styles will mould her personality over the years. More importantly, you are instrumental in helping to build her self-esteem and confidence, so that she’ll realise her fullest potential.
0 to 6 months:
* For the first three months, your baby’s actions are going to be driven by her primary needs — to eat, sleep and be comfortable. So, you’ll be hard out to make out what her temperament is at this stage as she cries when she is sleepy, tired or feeling uncomfortable.
* As she’s smiling and gurgling, you’d notice some babies have a sunnier disposition than others. It’s not a sign that something’s wrong, it’s just the way they are wired.
* Is she fussing about her soggy diaper or because too much noise? Remember a familiar voice, plus calm surroundings with soft lighting, should soothe her when she’s upset.
* Try jiggling a toy or comfort object the next time she bawls ― distraction is useful in soothing fussy babies. Some babies won’t settle easily and will keep on crying, so you’ll have to act fast before she starts to howl!
6 to 12 months:
* If bubba’s constantly trying to wiggle her way out of the baby chair, you could well have an active one on your hands. Good news: She’s probably going to learn how to walk much earlier than her peers!
* Expose your mini-me to a variety of new experiences like playing with other babies or new toys. Note her reactions ― does she adapt easily or is she approaching others with caution? This will give you clues on how she’ll fare in new situations.
* If all your attempts at creating daily routines have been fruitless, your kid’s probably more unpredictable by nature. Ease her gently into a routine.
* When you begin weaning her, introduce new fare regularly to her meals. Cautious babies will be more hesitant, but be persistent in offering new foods to her — it will pay off!
Read on to learn about your little one’s personality age 1 and beyond…
12 to 18 months:
* From age 1, you’ll better be able to gauge if baby’s going to be an introvert or extrovert. If she’s curious but reserved in exploring new areas, it’s likely she is an introvert.
* Change your parenting style to suit her personality — try to stick around in new situations, always keeping a small distance between the both of you. Once she’s warmed up to the new surroundings, you can leave.
* Learning to share and take turns will also shape your kiddo’s personality. Be sure to let her go on regular playdates, so that she can develop her social skills.
* Offer lots of encouragement and praise by letting her know that she can complete tasks ― like putting toys away ― to help build her confidence.
* Your child will start to assert her independence by throwing tantrums such as when she needs to leave the playground. Give her space to express herself but be firm when you discipline her.
* Instead of making decisions for her, teach her how to make them. Be patient when she makes a decision and respect her choices ― this allows her to grow into her own personality.
* How you respond to your mini-me will make a difference in how she expresses her feelings. Show her affection and she’ll be a more assured, confident and happier child.
* Birth order also plays a role in shaping your offspring’s personality. First-borns tend to be more driven and out-going, subsequent children are more chill and relaxed.