Track your baby's milestones ― Sense of self

You’ll be amazed at how aware bubba is from the get-go. Find out how she develops her sense of self.

Your baby’s sense of self all about knowing that she is her own person, and that there are other people around her. But for a baby, it isn’t that simple.

In her early months, she may even think that she and you are the same person. But as your baby grows and starts to explore the world around her, she starts to attain a greater sense of self awareness.

Here’s what you need to know about your baby’s journey to self-discovery.


0 to 6 months

* At birth, your infant will identify with his main caregiver most as his primary concern is to fill his immediate needs for food and love. Shower him with attention as babies need loving relationships to develop a positive sense of self.

* By the second month, bubba will become aware of the distance between his body and an object. So, you’ll often notice him trying to reach out and grab an object or a favourite toy that’s in front of him.

* At about 4 months, he’ll assert his budding independence by crying to get your attention. This is one of the first moments he’ll realise that he has an independent will, and his behaviour will impact you.

* Your little one’s connection to culture is an important part of who he is and will shape his identity and self-esteem in a positive way. So, use words for important people, such as his mother, father, grandparents, as well as things (bottle, blanket, pacifier) with him.


6 to 12 months

* By 7 months, your tot will understand she’s separate from you, which is around the time she’ll develop separation anxiety that can last till she’s age 2. So, avoid sneaking away when her back is turned when you drop her off at childcare. Hard as it is, say a proper goodbye to her.

* At 8 months, she’s more aware of her surroundings and anticipates daily routines ― “when I’m in the crib, it’s bedtime”; “when I sit in the high chair, it’s mealtime”.

* This is also about the time she becomes more observant and realises the relationship between cause and effect ― “when I drop my towel, mummy will pick it up.”

* By 9 months, your peewee will start to take charge of her eating habits. She’ll assert her independence by reaching for her spoon or trying to take food off your plate. It may be frustrating and messy, but letting her do so helps her to develop her fine motor skills.


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