8 acts of love that spoil your kids

Showing love and affection to your child is a good thing, but make sure you don’t go overboard!

“I’ll be a good parent in the future. I will teach my child to be grateful and kind, instead of spoiling him.” You may have made this vow to yourself, but it’s natural to want the best for your child.

Great as it is to see junior playing happily and smiling, which lifts your mood, this doesn’t mean giving in to your child’s every whim and fancy. It might make him happy for a moment, but it won’t benefit him in the long run. Over-indulging junior is not a way to show your affection and love to your child.          

Yet, you might not even realise that you might be spoiling your kids with these everyday actions….

1. Treating them like royalty
Problem: When your little sprout is young, it might be tempting to give in to their every want. I mean how can you ever resist that look of appeal and sweet smile she gives you when she wants something? If you give in to her all the time, you might lose the influence that you have over her. This will result in a stubborn and selfish child who is used to getting everything she wants.
Solution: Establish boundaries and limits, so that you don’t lose your authority. It’s your job to teach your children as kids need guidance in figuring out what’s the right thing to do. This is hard if they do not respect you, so make sure to set limits.

Establish boundaries and limits, so that you don’t lose your authority. It’s your job to teach your children as kids need guidance in figuring out what’s the right thing to do.

2. Giving them too much money
Problem: You should not give your child more than what he actually needs as your kid might not be able to manage so much money. Some parents feel guilty that they aren’t able to spend time with their child because they work long hours, so they try to make it up to them by giving them bigger allowances. However, this may result in kids who feel a sense of entitlement. 
Solution: Check how much your kewpie actually needs per day before handing him the money. You can give him a bit more, so that he can practise the habit of saving!

3. Lavishing branded goods on them
Problem: You give in when junior nags you for the latest smartphone or Xbox game, maybe because you don’t want them to feel left out when they’re with their peers. Sure, your kiddo should have the best (of your attention) but overindulging them with luxury material things will likely give him a sense of entitlement. When they’re older, not only will it be harder for them to accept something of a “lower” standard, such instant gratification will result in an inability to grasp the real value of money or learn ways to manage it well.
Solution: Remember, your main duty is to love, guide, feed, clothe and educate your child as well as ensure that they are healthy. Everything else ― video games, the latest fashion ― is a want. One or two branded items are fine, especially if it’s a birthday or Christmas present. Just make sure not to go overboard and purchase a whole cabinet full of lavish items for your mini-me. You can also explain to them the value of the item so that they will understand its value and not take it for granted.

4. Offering gifts instead of encouragement
Problem: Getting your kiddo an extravagant gift can make him materialistic as he will start expecting a present every time he does well.
Solution: Whenever your little munchkin does something well, compliment and encourage him positively instead of buying him a present! Your compliment means much more to your child, and it boosts his motivation to do even better in the future.