Powerful ways to help your kid get ahead

Inspire junior to be the best that he can be ― always ― with these nifty conversation starters.

You’ve probably come across this motivational phrase, “Your attitude determines your altitude” before. So, if junior thinks he is never going to be somebody someday, he’s already lost half the battle.

This is where your conversations with your child will instil in him the mindset to do and be better. So be sure to ask the right questions that’ll prompt him to think positively. Try these:

1. What do you love doing that makes you feel the happiest? Junior has the choice to do something that makes him feel good over something that makes him feel awful. This question encourages him to focus on and do the things that bring him joy. 

2. What four words best describes yourself? This will get your child to think about their self-image ― the way he “sees” himself. It also builds confidence. If he thinks negatively about himself, you’ll have the chance to help your child change it.

3. Name one kind act or good deed you’ve done for someone today/this week? Touch Family Services manager Chong Ee Jay explains that this gives you the opportunity to recognise your child’s kind acts and motivate him to find other ways to behave likewise. It’ll also shape their attitude ― to stand up for the needs of others in need.

4. What is one problem you are grateful not to have?  This is to inspire your kiddo to count his blessings, to be aware that for every obstacle he is facing, someone else is in an even more difficult place than him.

5. What is a really exciting thing you’ll like to do? Sarah Chua Focus on the Family’s parenting specialist stresses that this question encourages your child to be more adventurous. You should egg junior on to try new and exciting things, so that he can grow.


Asking him how you can help shows that you are willing to work with him and not force him to do as you say.


6. Share with me a tough experience that you have gone through and tell me what it’s taught you? It’s usually live’s toughest experiences that help us grow stronger, learn more about ourselves and become more resilient as a person. When your tween knows what mistakes he has made should stop him from repeating them.

7. What are your goals? How can I help you achieve them? Setting one’s sights on achieving a certain goal is going to keep your tween motivated to do his best. Asking him how you can help shows that you are willing to work with him and not force him to do as you say. Chong adds this question will encourage your kiddo to dream big while building a strong parent-child bond.

Seven more questions coming right up…