5 steps to raise a confident and resilient child

Give your child the necessary tools to handle the challenges of adolescence and can make their way to adulthood successfully.

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Today’s children are tomorrow’s leaders. As kids learn by imitating, parents are their first teachers and role models.

Although it is impossible to be a ‘perfect’ parent, the example you set plays an important role in determining your little one’s behaviour. Kids start to cultivate proper habits when they see good behaviour being practised in front of them constantly.

For example, making a conscientious effort to look both ways when you are crossing the street will encourage your child to do the same whenever he crosses the street next time.

Children’s lives have now become more complex than before because of their increased exposure to technology. What parents faced as kids is different from what children today are experiencing. Not only is the pace in which they are growing faster, they are also dealing with many more challenges. This include higher levels of academic pressure and competition from their peers. As parents will not always be there for their child, junior has to learn to ask for help and solve their own problems.

“Not only do resilient children know how to relieve stress themselves, they are also more confident, have good problem-solving skills, not sweat the small stuff and tend to be happier.”

Vyda S Chai, a clinical psychologist at Think Psychological Services, states that learning how to manage stressful events such as academic pressure, friendship issues and bullying, are part and parcel of growing up.

Parents will not always be able to protect their children from these situations, so it’s best to ensure that they acquire resilience, which will help them to respond positively in stressful situations.

Not only do resilient children know how to relieve stress themselves, they are also more confident, have good problem-solving skills, not sweat the small stuff and tend to be happier. They will also grow up to be more insightful individuals and are better at forming relationships with others. They are resourceful when dealing with stressful life issues, and have the ability to work towards success.

Try these strategies to raise a confident and resilient child:

#1 Don’t shield your child from mistakes
Train them to recognise mistakes, problem solve, and work through the challenges by themselves, instead of correcting them and shielding them from making the mistake. Experiencing the feeling of failure, and knowing how to get back up afterwards is a very important life skill. You can be make sure you’re present to provide emotional support and encouragement, but let your little one figure out a solution by himself without stepping in.