Trying for baby? Avoid these common mistakes…

Are you going about your baby making the wrong way? Two ob-gyns weigh in on avoidable missteps.


For some couples, bringing their bundle of joy into this world isn’t a process that’s quick nor easy. Especially in the case of late-in-life parents or those with existing fertility issues who may have to contend with the hefty price that comes with assisted reproductive technology, such as in-vitro fertilisation.

Dr Dharshini Gopalakrishnakone, an obstetrician-gynaecologist at the Singapore Medical Group, notes that 85 per cent of couples who have regular intercourse — at least two to three times a week — will get pregnant within a year.

“Apps on phones are not medically trained, nor are they genies. Hence they cannot predict a woman’s ovulation dates accurately.”

However, sometimes couples do make “mistakes” along the way that might postpone their entrance into parenthood. Also, there’s so much conflicting information out there about baby making tips and tricks that couples may be left feeling overwhelmed and confused.

SmartParents experts help to set the record straight on the business behind baby making by busting some common myths and mistakes.   

MISTAKE #1: Having sex only when your ovulation app tells you to

There’s no denying that ovulation apps have made it more convenient and easier for women to keep tabs on their ovulation patterns. But Dr Dharshini cautions you not to be fooled by the app’s ability to accurately predict your ovulation patterns.

“Apps on phones are not medically trained, nor are they genies. Hence they cannot predict a woman’s ovulation dates accurately.”

She stresses having intercourse two to three times a week instead, without necessarily aiming for the precise date of your ovulation.

Dr Christopher Chong, an Ob-Gyn at Gleneagles Hospital adds that while one egg is ovulated every month month, the egg can stay alive for 48 hours, and the sperm for 48 to 72 hours, in the womb. “Hence the two to three days before and two days after ovulation is still considered the fertile period.”

MISTAKE #2: Not having enough sex

Dr Chong explains some men are afraid that having sex too frequently can reduce the quality and quantity of their sperm. This is absolutely untrue.

“The couple should have intercourse daily during the ovulation period — two days before and after ovulation — for a total of five days.” It is believed that doing so will not cause any adverse effects on a guy’s sperm quality or quantity. 

Five more avoidable baby-making mistakes coming right up!