Celeb dad Allan Wu: Making ‘dad time’ count

TV host Allan Wu on finding time for his kids, even though his work takes him around the world frequently.

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Recently, I was returning home after wrapping my first day of filming on a new StarHub television programme called Super Daddy.

My day then had required me to deal with toddlers in a kindergarten, and I could not help but think of my own two children, who are more than twice the age of the kindergarteners.

My daughter, Sage, is fast approaching 13 this year, and my son Jonas is already 11. There, in the kindergarten, I had an epiphany that many parents share ― our progeny grow up fast. Really fast.

That day, surrounded by other people’s children, I could not help but recall when Sage and Jonas were uttering their first words, or when they were just learning how to walk.

Parents know that each and every moment with your child is precious ― and fleeting.

This is not a significant realisation, I know, to see on paper.

It is something that happens inside each parent when they are struck by the reality of time passing.

As they grow, however, it is a challenge to get them to want to spend time with me – which is natural, since they are growing from small children into teenagers.

If someone asked me to choose just one aspect of my life that keeps me stable, happy and fulfilled, I would answer “my children” unhesitatingly.

Watching the kindergarteners that day, and fondly recalling my kids at that age, I thought back to them in Primary school, when they were so much smaller and so much more reliant on their parents.

Then, I felt like I was their whole world.

Today, Sage and Jonas are two very independent beings. They know how to keep themselves busy, and it has become even more important to be proactive in engaging in activities together.

That is especially since I do not live with my kids.

Due to the nature of my work and overseas commitments, I agreed, during the time of my divorce from their mother, to have Sage and Jonas stay with her.

As much as I would prefer to have the children staying with me, it seemed like the right solution.

If I cannot be in the same country as them, I believe it is still best to have them be with their mother as opposed to a nanny or domestic helper primarily watching over them.

Lately, my work has taken me overseas much more frequently ― which means that I do not get to see the kids all that much.

When I am in town, I try to see them every day, even if it is only for an hour or so. As they grow, however, it is a challenge to get them to want to spend time with me ― which is natural, since they are growing from small children into teenagers.