Disciplining junior with love

Learn how you can use love to keep junior in line (with no yelling!)

Despite having grown past the terrible tot stage, junior is still throwing tantrums — but now, it’s accompanied by signs of defiance. The worst part is, the usual discipline methods don’t seem to be working as well as it used to. But how do you cope with his behavior and not become the enemy?

          SmartParents spoke to Maya Thiagarajan, author of Beyond the Tiger Mum on disciplining your child once they are past the toddler stage.

          As a toddler, your tot’s brain had not fully matured, so the usual discipline methods like holding them to calm them down and simple, quick punishments might work. But as your child grows, so does their brain. They will now be able to comprehend their actions and understand why they’re wrong.

          This might be the reason your usual method of just punishing them is not be working as well as it used to. Instead you should take up positive discipline.

          Just remember that for positive discipline to work, you need to have built a strong relationship with junior – one where they feel like they can talk to you about anything and everything.

          “My philosophy is to discipline as much as possible through love, not fear,” says Maya Thiagarajan. “And to err on the side of gentleness because in the long run, we all want our kids to grow up to be calm and kind adults, so we want to model for them how calm and kind adults behave.”

          Positive discipline is a combination of love and gentleness together with firmness and strict boundaries. It takes a lot of control from you, the parents. However, positive discipline is a technique for the long run and facilitates teaching your little darling to be good, kind, well-adjusted and well-behaved; the “usual” discipline methods tend only to be effective for the short-term and do not offer any benefit for junior or you.


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