Celeb mum Lin Peifen: Caning is a no-no, it scars more than gets the message across

The YES 933 producer-presenter reveals how she deals with mummy guilt and her parenting challenges thus far…

YES 933 producer-presenter Lin Peifen thinks her star sign is responsible for giving her a lot of stress and unhappiness as a parent.

Indeed, as a Virgo — often associated with a relentless drive for perfection ― she says, “I’ve since learnt to relax a little, but now I am facing a new set of challenges.”

The “Ah Jie of local radio” — a term she’s earned after chalking up 17 years on the airwaves — is married to business manager Lie Weixiang, 37. The couple welcomed son Luke in July 2015.

The 37-year-old admits that her mini-me has learnt how to push the boundaries and challenge authority — not unlike other threenagers.

“I’ve already lost my cool a number of times, and felt really bad after that. But I always apologise to him, remind myself not to lose my temper again, and move on.”

Although Peifen is the disciplinarian at home, she frowns on caning. “It’s a definite no-no for me. It scars more than gets a message across.”

With such clear-cut parenting views, her parenting style does clash with that of her husband’s on occasion. The couple come to a compromise after reminding themselves that their goal is what’s best for their son. Understanding each other’s views and reaching an agreement, is vital in order to avoid confusing your child, Peifen adds.

“…I feel childhood is short enough and kids tend to grow up at a much younger age than before. So, I really want him to have good, pure kiddie fun

 “It helps that [Weixiang] is not at home a lot on weekdays, so I can have my way most of the time,” Peifen says, laughing.

The bubbly mummy spills secrets to getting up at the crack of dawn for her early radio shift, fuss-free travel with her little one, and if she has plans to expand her family…

Hello, Peifen! What’s your secret to hopping out of bed in the wee hours of the morning?
Become a parent. [Laughs] It’s true. I’ve always had trouble waking up early in the morning, even with a loud alarm. But ever since I became a mother and started co-sleeping with Luke, my morning alarm is just a vibrating phone and I have no trouble waking up. Also, I try my best to sleep early.

Can you walk us through a typical day in your life?                     
I wake up at 5.45 in the morning and do my radio show from 7 to 10am. The few hours after that are usually spent either doing more work or running errands, and I will pick Luke up from school at about 4pm. The rest of the day is spent with him, playing, reading, bathing and dinner. His bedtime ritual starts at around 9pm, I read him some bedtime stories and we usually end the day by about 10pm.

What are your childcare arrangements like?
Luke goes to childcare on weekdays. If I have assignments that last longer than his school hours, I have help from my husband or my parents. We also have a helper at home.

What is Luke’s personality like?
He is upfront, impatient and affectionate. When he’s happy, he laughs out loud. When he is upset, he cries out loud. When he loves someone or something, he is very generous with his expressions of love.