MUM SAYS My husband’s paternity leave saved my sanity!

It’s the little things that daddies do during paternity leave, that mean the world, says working mum Jaime Lee.

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“I always thought I knew a lot about being a mum. After all, I had many close friends who were mums, and I thought I knew what it would be like to raise a child.

I had heard all about breastfeeding problems, had my views on co-sleeping and bouncing a baby to sleep. In my head, we would have an angel baby and I would implement all the stuff I’ve read in the books.

As it turns out, I was in for a surprise when I found out my baby was a demanding milk guzzler who would cry suddenly to be fed like we have starved him for days. He takes forever to fall asleep — flailing his arms while screaming his lungs out and hated to be put down.

The first two weeks were overwhelming even with a confinement nanny. The pressure to instantly become a competent mum left me in quite a mess. I had to deal with recovery from the biggest operation of my life, coupled with my milk supply in overdrive — which left me with sore, rock-hard boobs (I even had trouble sleeping on my side). As I was getting used to broken sleep, I was still struggling with learning how to calm an incessantly-crying baby I didn’t understand!

 

Nurturing another human being 24/7 and constantly problem-solving and trouble-shooting meant moments of feeling emotionally and physically bankrupt.”

My brain was always buzzing with how to solve the next baby-related problem, while trying to keep afloat physically and emotionally. I didn’t want to admit that I was not doing so well, even to my husband. I wanted to be that put-together positive mummy I always imagined becoming.

Running my own business also meant that on top of the chaos happening at home, there were emails that needed to be replied, designs that needed to be pushed out and issues that needed to be. Plus, I had to be there for my team members.

In my drastically altered world, even though I didn’t know how to say it then, I needed my husband to be an endless river of love and support for me. Even if I had very little to give in return.

Nurturing another human being 24/7 and constantly problem-solving and trouble-shooting meant moments of feeling emotionally and physically bankrupt. An involved father and an encouraging husband was absolutely essential for my sanity.

Read on to find out what Jaime’s hubby did during his paternity leave to ease her burden.