Things I wish mum told me before I had kids

Did your mother clue you in to any of these smart-parent hacks?


Mothers know best…don’t they?

Many of us have a love-hate relationship with our own mums. Not only do they seem to nag at us all the time, we disagree on discipline tactics, and we sometimes feel that we know better than them.

But deep down inside, we know that there’s nothing like mum’s homecooked food, we appreciate all their hard work, and we love them more than anything in the world.

And there’s no denying that they’ve got a wealth of experience, especially when it comes to parenting.

So, now that we’ve gone and had our own children, what are some things you wish your mum had told you (or advice you wish you had listened to) before you became a mum?

Some Singapore mums gave it some thought.  

1. Save money

“Those days where we could easily blow $100 a night clubbing? They are so over. Now we think about it, $100 can buy one and a half tins of milk powder!”
Serena Tan, mum to Jesslyn, 1, and Ryan, 7.

2. Think before you travel 
“I love travelling and I used to save my salary for one big vacation with my husband every year. With two kids, a trip that would cost $2,000 per adult now costs almost $10,000 for the whole family. So, fewer vacations for us now, for sure!”
Zheng Shu Ting, mum to Xavier, 2, and Clarence, 5. 

“After Gabriel arrived, I now wonder why I didn’t treasure all my free time!”

3. Kids make marriage tougher
I wish my mum told me to treasure the time we had as a couple! I love my kids a lot, but I won’t lie and say they brought me and my husband closer. We even have to sleep in separate rooms now because Daddy sleeps with the jie jie, while I bunk in with the baby who wakes up four or five times a night!”
Lynn Tay, mum to Nicholas, 3 months, and Chevelle, 5.

4. Manage your time wisely, so that you’ll have free time
"Mum used to nag at us to do our homework, divide our day using a timetable and sort out all our schedules…but her nagging usually fell on deaf years. After Gabriel arrived, I now wonder why I didn’t treasure all my free time!”
Valerie Ng, mum to Gabriel, 4.     

5. Don’t take a clean house for granted
“I assumed it was easy to housekeep because my parents’ home was always spotless. Now that I’m a stay-at-home mum with two kids, I realise how much work my mum put in to make sure the house was clean! And she had four kids!” 
Michelle Teo, mum to Yva, 1, and Joy, 5.