10 things to never say to mums-to-be

Sure, compliment a pregnant woman on her glow, by all means, but don’t tick her off with these insensitive zingers!

Your preggo friend, sister or wife may seem to be glowing, or even basking in her new-found curves, but pregnancy is also an emotional time, since her hormones may be driving her a little crazy.

So, make sure you don’t get caught in a foot-in-your-mouth situation ―there are just some things that should remain absolutely unsaid. Even if you’re thinking it, don’t make comments that are inappropriate, rude, and more often than not, simply none of your business.

Use this guide to navigate these murky waters.

1.      Don’t say: “Wow, your belly is huge!”
No one, not even an expectant mum who is ready to pop, wants to hear how big she is. Just think ― if you’ve spent half the morning attempting to stuff yourself into those XL maternity pants, while trying to smoothen bulges that weren’t there a couple of days ago, wouldn’t you’d be mighty peeved if someone told you that you resemble an elephant?
Instead, say: “You look beautiful.” Yep, that covers it.

2.      Don’t say: “You’re pregnant? It’s about time!”
Sure, your pal might have been married almost five years, but it’s not up to you to judge when the right time for her to have a baby is. Her delay in starting a family might be due to several factors including financial issues, a desire to focus on her career, or even infertility. These are all sensitive issues she may not be ready to share with you. 
Instead, say: “I’m really happy for you!” It doesn’t matter when it happens, but being happy for a pregnant friend should naturally be your immediate reaction!

No one, not even an expectant mum who is ready to pop, wants to hear how big she is. 

3.      Don’t say: “Can I touch your belly?”
Why, oh why, would you do that to anyone, especially if it’s someone you’re not even close to? Recalls mum Leena Chua, mum to Samuel, who is now 5 months old, “I was sitting at a café one day, and this elderly lady at the next table requested to touch my bump. As awkward as it was, I allowed it as she seemed nice. The next thing I knew, she whipped out $10 and insisted I take it. It was super weird!”
Instead, say: “What a cute bump you’ve got!” Compliment it, don’t touch it. Got it?

4.      Don’t say: “How much weight have you gained?”
You wouldn’t even ask a non-pregnant woman this, so why would you now? Expectant mums can get touchy (and emotional) about their weight gain, so bringing up this sensitive issue now is a big no-no.
Instead, say: “How are you feeling?” If she wants to discuss her backaches because of the weight of her growing bump, trust us, she will. 

5.      Don’t say: “I felt my whole body being ripped apart.”
Horrific labour experiences aren’t the best things to share at this time as a woman who is pregnant is likely already terrified about the impending labour. Says Pearl Teoh, who is 5 months pregnant, “My sis has three kids and one even had a dramatic birth story. I really don’t want to hear about another emergency C-section or a 30-hour-long labour story!”
Instead, say: “My birth experience was tough, but every woman’s is different.” For a fact.