13 things women wish men knew about pregnancy

Dear hubby, here are some things your pregnant wife really, really, really wants you to know…

Pregnancy’s an exciting time when a couple’s bond is boosted in many ways. Going for doctor’s visits, picking out baby names and decorating the nursery are activities couples usually do together while preparing for their little one’s arrival.

During this time, the husband and wife also makes their own personal journeys towards becoming a parent. The woman watches her belly grow bigger by the day and feels her baby kicking. The man supports his wife emotionally and physically supporting her wife, while doing useful chores like assembling the crib.

Needless to say, helpful as are, most men just don’t get what it feels like to be pregnant. And when a clueless man and a hormonal pregnant woman aren’t on the same page, well, the outcome can be rather disastrous.

Ladies, if you feel like your man’s testosterone is getting in the way of his common sense during this all-important time in your life, don’t worry. To ease both your journeys to parenthood,  SmartParents has compiled a list of the top things all women wish their husbands knew about pregnancy and how they should act.

All you have to do now is send this article to your man and tell him to bookmark it because he’ll need to refer to it from time to time!

#1 We need to hear that we’re beautiful/stunning/gorgeous at least once a day

Not everyone can glow every single day of their pregnancy. Sometimes, weare  feeling shattered (because we’ve been puking all day), other times, we are super-tired, because we are growing a human being inside of us. And that’s before water retention even catches up with us during the third trimester, and we start looking more like the Michelin man than Michelle Williams. So yes, we need to be told, every day, that we look beautiful.  

#2 It’s not us, it’s the hormones

Remember how puberty hormones drove you crazy? Well, multiply that by a gazillion, and you’ll get a rough idea of what we’re dealing with when we are preggers. Curious to know just what hormones we’re producing? First, the human chorionic gonadotropin (better known as HCG) needs to keep multiplying throughout the nine months for a pregnancy to stay strong. Then, the oestrogen levels spike as these will play a major role in our milk duct development, so that we can start producing breastmilk. Third, to bolster baby’s growth, our levels of progesterone also need to be extraordinarily high. So, when we do something that’s out of character, don’t judge, just know it’s the hormones talking. Any more questions? Yeah, didn’t think so!

#3 “We” are not pregnant, I am pregnant!

It’s so adorable when men say “we are pregnant” to make it sound like they are in it together with us. No offence, guys, but your contribution to this pregnancy started and ended with the horizontal mambo. Is your uterus stretching to the size of a watermelon? Did your boobs go from a size C to a D overnight?  Are your feet so swollen that you can’t fit into any of your cute shoes and you have to wear flip-flops everywhere? Do you have to pee every five minutes? No? Then you’re not pregnant!

When we do something that’s out of character, don’t judge, just know it’s the hormones talking.

#4 We are not disabled

As our growing bump starts getting in the way, you’ll need to help us pick things up from the floor. When we are tired, please offer to carry our bags or run errands, so we can rest. Don’t treat us like glass, though. We are not weak or fragile. Our body is creating a new life, so in fact, we are the opposite of weak and fragile. We are not expecting to be coddled, but we’ll always welcome frequent cuddles!

#5 Manage your expectations when it comes to sex

First, we fret that you might not find us sexy anymore. After all, we don’t quite look the same in our favourite lingerie. So, don’t give up trying to get us into it even if we say we aren’t in the mood. When you do, manage your expectations. Pregnancy sex is bit different to non-pregnant sex. Our bump is going to get in the way, so let’s try to be more creative, shall we? Oh, and don’t worry, you can’t poke the baby. No seriously, that’s not how dimples are formed. Speaking of baby, after it arrives, we might have to put sex in the back burner for a bit ― for possibly as many as six weeks. But don’t be surprised if this timeline needs to be extended, especially if we’ve had a vaginal birth. Don’t worry though, we will get back on the saddle soon enough [wink wink].

#6 Don’t use words like “big”, “round” and “growing”

We know we’re getting big. You know we’re getting big. Our next door neighbor knows we’re getting big. So, you don’t need to point it out to us. This is one of the rare times in our marriage that you’re allowed, even encouraged, to lie. Tell us we are “glowing”, “radiant” and “curvaceous”. Use any other word, but any synonym for fat.

#7 We’re tired all the time

You planned a romantic dinner followed by a late-night dinner? How sweet. Make sure you booked us into Gold Class though, because we’d like to put our feet up as we take a nap. Growing a baby inside of you is hard work so, 7pm is the new 9pm for us. Bub is not only literally sucking the life and energy out of us, it also kept us up for half the night with all that kicking. Now, how about a nice foot rub as we doze off?