15 phrases to never say to your pregnant wife

Do your spouse ― and yourself ― a favour by refraining from uttering these insensitive statements during her pregnancy!

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By now, you’ve probably cottoned on that pregnancy isn’t a bed of roses for the missus and a pretty sensitive time for her. And if you’re a first-time dad, you may have gotten a few glares from your wife after making certain statements.

You don’t know how your wife feels because you aren’t the one who is pregnant ― the things you utter may sometimes sound insensitive and hurtful to her. So that you don’t land in hot water with your significant other over unwitting verbal slip-ups, take a look at what you should never say to your pregnant wife!

1. “We’re pregnant”

Guys, you know this phrase just isn’t accurate ― your wife is the one who’s pregnant ― so, you’re definitely aren’t carrying a baby! Melissa Chen, a mother of three boys, says that this is one of the phrases she disliked hearing from her husband. She explains, “Cos seriously, only the woman is!”

2. “I’ve heard that some pregnant women don’t experience morning sickness at all!”

Not helpful! This is probably an obvious one ― if your wife is plagued by nasty bouts of morning sickness, hearing that some women escape the queasies isn’t going to magick away her morning sickness. In fact, it might even make her feel worse. What she’ll really appreciate is you getting her some nosh that’ll ease her nausea.

It isn’t easy to enjoy quality rest, what with a growing bump, and a baby whose karate kicks in the third tri could rival Bruce Lee’s!... Why not make yourself useful like getting her some pregnancy sleep aids?

3. “I understand how you’re feeling”

Honestly, you should know better than to trot this one out ― you really don’t and can’t know how your wife’s feeling. You’ve never (and will never) experience pregnancy, so you wouldn’t know how tiring or painful it can get. Instead of telling your wife you know how she’s feeling, cook her a nice meal or give her a massage!

4. “Is it the hormones again?”

Ann de Souza recalls resenting her husband when he made this remark. Yes, during pregnancy, women will be more hormonal. However, it’s pretty tactless to just blame your wife’s concerns or behaviour on pregnancy hormones! You’d win brownie points just hearing out her fears or trying to cheer her up.

5. “Why do you cry so much?”

It’s normal for pregnant women to get more emotional, nor can they control it. So, even if she cries at the littlest things, just understand why, bring her a box of tissues and offer a cuddle.

6. “I’m so tired”

When you and your wife are about to have a child, both of you are probably going to be pretty tired. However, complaining to your wife that you’re tired when she’s the one heaving a big bump around, as well as experiencing all the pregnancy symptoms and hormonal changes is rather obtuse. Mum of three S F Tan gripes that this was one of the remarks that annoyed her when she was expecting.

7. “You look really tired”

Ya think? It isn’t easy to enjoy quality rest, what with a growing bump, and a baby whose karate kicks in the third tri could rival Bruce Lee’s! Instead of highlighting how washed out she looks, why not make yourself useful like getting her some pregnancy sleep aids?