7 ways to care for your toddler when you're pregnant

Use these survival tips to stay sane if you’re juggling a pregnancy with a tot who’s running you ragged.


Remember the first time you were pregnant? What an amazing experience it was. First, you were so excited over getting a positive pregnancy test, then breaking the good news to everyone through a creative pregnancy announcement.

Then came the pampering from family and friends, shopping for maternity clothes (and baby), plus having the luxury of staying in bed all day if you weren’t feeling well. Ahhhh…first pregnancies are the best.

It’s not to say that all subsequent pregnancies aren’t great, but let’s admit it, they will never be that fun and relaxing, ever. Why? Because now you have a little one in tow. Even though your body may be going through changes, life carries on for your tot, and they need you around as much as ever.

Having kids close in age comes with a host of benefits. They will have a playmate from a young age as well as a confidant for life. Everyone anticipates the extra workload that comes with having two young kids. However, many underestimate just how challenging it is to care for an active, growing ― and demanding ― toddler while sporting a bump.

If you’re currently about to go down this road, don’t fret. Plenty of women have done it and lived to tell the tale! Here are some of their go-to tips to survive this challenging time.

The first thing to do, right after you find out you’re preggers with #2, is to immediately lower your expectations for the next nine months  and beyond, if you can.

#1 Lower your expectations

The first thing to do, right after you find out you’re preggers with #2, is to immediately lower your expectations for the next nine months and beyond, if you can. You are growing a human being inside of you, while another little person on the outside is demanding all your time and attention. When junior doesn’t get his what he wants, it’s tantrum central all the way. Things are about to get hectic and exhausting to say the least, so don’t expect to be on the ball all the time. You may no longer have the energy to prepare every single one of junior’s meals from scratch, so don’t feel guilty about offering him a simple sandwich or ordering in. Art-and-craft sessions every afternoon were a great way to spend one-on-one time with your tyke, but if you feel like you need to lie down for a bit, don’t think twice about letting junior watch some TV. It’s all about reprioritising and being kind to yourself.

#2 Get help

While we’re on the topic of self-care, know that the best way to take care of yourself is to get extra pairs of hands to shoulder some of your responsibilities. If you’ve been super-mum all this while, it may be harder to scale back, so do it slowly. Start by giving the hubs more responsibilities, especially morning duties. Remember how bad morning sickness was the first time round? You might also want to get someone in to help with cleaning the house, so you use this time to rest or spend with your tyke. You do want to have as much time with him before the baby arrives. And on those days when you just can’t get out of bed, have the grandparents or a trusted friend on speed dial. They will be more than happy to scoop up the little one and bring him to an afternoon at the playground or for some ice cream. We doubt junior will protest.