Vital support for pregnant mums — where to find it

Motherhood isn’t easy. We look at your needs as your bump grows…


It’s not “being weak” or being “wrong” somehow, to reach out for support. With so many new challenges to deal with, pregnancy and new motherhood can be overwhelming. Your fluctuating hormones can also make you feel hugely emotional and less able to cope. While the responsibility of carrying your baby is your husband and yours, it’s also important to have understanding people around you who can help you manage the challenges of pregnancy and parenting —  so that you in turn can be the support that your baby needs!

1) Friends and family

Tap this group as an easy source of support as friends and relatives will be keen to help in any way they can. Use this resource if you need assistance with grocery shopping, advice on which paedi to sign up with, or even someone to mind bubba while you grab 40 winks. You can assemble a timetable that lists exactly what help you need and when — and spread out your requests so you don’t lean on one person.

2) Antenatal groups

Attending an antenatal class won’t just answer your questions about labour, being a new parent and how to care for your baby, such programmes encourage parents-to-be to forge relationships with other group participants as they often become friends and stay in touch as their children grow.

Kate Tan, 33, mum to Ophelia, 2 months, says her friends from antenatal classes have been an invaluable part of her new mum-support network. “Before we’d even finished the classes, we set up a WhatsApp group and after, we'll meet at least twice a month.

“We even messaged each other during labour to cheer each other on! And now that the babies are here, it’s great sharing our parenting experiences.”

Antenatal programmes encourage parents to forge relationships with each other as they often become friends and stay in touch as their children grow.

Most maternity hospitals in Singapore offer antenatal courses, including KK Women’s and Children’s Hospital (KKH). Its three-part programme, which covers pregnancy, labour and delivery, as well as nurturing your child, starts from week 16 of your pregnancy. Call 6394-1268 or e-mail for details.

3) Depression

Everyone at some time during pregnancy will feel inadequate or frustrated or just plain blue: Reach out for help and talk to someone, friends, family, your doctor or a helpline. Various factors such as a complicated pregnancy or foetal abnormalities can cause antenatal depression. You could also be at risk if you are a very young mother, have marital difficulties, or face financial and job problems, the loss of a loved one, and lack social support.

If you are struggling with depression, get help from KKH’s Perinatal Depression Support Group. This support group helps women who experience prenatal or postnatal depression and anxiety. Case managers facilitate counselling sessions in English on the first Tuesday of the month. Call 6394-2205 for more information.