6 ways to praise without spoiling your tot

Sure, complimenting your kid is good for her self-esteem but overdoing it can turn her into an entitled brat!

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For obvious reasons, praising your kids can lead to a whole lot of good for your little one’s wellbeing. It boosts her confidence and self-esteem while keeping her motivated to do her best. It also shows your tot that you are aware of her struggles and triumphs.

Even for parents, it feels good for you to praise your progeny because they represent the best of you.

Parenting specialist with Focus on the Family Sarah Chua points out that the lack of compliments can actually leave your kids feeling unloved. “Just as children have physical needs such as food and shelter to grow up healthy, they also have emotional needs such as receiving affirmation, attention and affection from their parents.”  

 

“When parents praise their children for every little thing they do, even when they have not done anything to deserve it, the parents’ words can become meaningless and will sow doubts about their sincerity.”

While commending junior can do wonders for her wellbeing, overdoing it can have ill effects, too. Overpraising your kids can cause problems:


  • Your praises become nothing more than words Getting praised for every little thing she does can leave your kiddo feeling like your kind words are just part of a habit. Chua notes, “When parents praise their children for every little thing they do, even when they have not done anything to deserve it, the parents’ words can become meaningless and will sow doubts about their sincerity.”
  • Junior feels misunderstood or underappreciated Chua explains, “The child may conclude that her parents don’t actually know she is really good at.”
  • Creating insecurities Your kiddo may become too reliant on your praises that she feels empty without it
  • Nurturing your child’s narcissistic tendencies A person with high self-esteem sees herself as an equal with others. A narcissist, on the other hand, thinks of herself as better than everyone else. If you routinely tell your kids how they are not like the others, you may turn them into overconfident individuals. Chua explains, “They may be proud and think of themselves as better than other children, and even start to put others down.”

 

Read on to learn how you should praise your child without spoiling her…