4 easy steps to put a stop to your child's whining

Don’t lose your cool ― follow these simple strategies to correct your child’s annoying, complaining behaviour!

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Life with your threenager
can quite agonising when your mini-me has a habit of whining. In fact, this habit may begin from as early as when your child is able to communicate verbally.

Indeed, renowned parenting guru Dr Michele Borba notes that junior’s annoying habit of complaining in a sustained plaintive cry is set to continue well into your kiddo’s school years.

Dr Lim Boon Leng , a psychiatrist at Dr BL Lim Centre for Psychological Wellness, explains that your child starts to whine because he feels ignored. “[They] may [start to] whine in order to gain attention and if adults only respond to or give in when the child whines, the whining behaviour will be reinforced and perpetuated.”

“Children do not intentionally set out to manipulate adults, however, they will learn to display the behaviour that is required for their needs to be met.”

While you may think that your child is whining because he’s out to get you, but Dr Lim assures you this is not the case. “Children do not intentionally set out to manipulate adults, however, they will learn to display the behaviour that is required for their needs to be met.”

Your little one resorts to whining because they lack control and feel helpless to cope with whatever they’re facing. Dr Lim states. “[Following which,] parents are now faced with the dilemma of giving in to the child to stop their whining, or bearing with it and standing firm, [hence] making them feel helpless, too.”

However, taking a zero tolerance attitude to your child’s whining will stop him from acting out in this manner. Both Dr Borba and Dr Lim list simple steps you can take: