8 reasons throwing a tantrum is good for your tot

Although your mini-me’s meltdowns can be embarrassing and draining to deal with, these outbursts will benefit them.

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Toddlers throw tantrums all the time. Worse, junior’s behaviour isn’t just intolerable, it can be downright embarrassing, especially since they can have a meltdown just about anywhere ― from a quiet restaurant to a crowded supermarket.

Your little one’s tantrum throwing seems self-indulgent, so, it’s hard to think that anything good can come out of it. But there is good reason for your little one’s outbursts.

Explains Insights Mind Centre psychologist Daniel Koh, “If the tantrum is mild, under control and non-aggressive, this is how they express their emotions and thoughts. Younger children are on a learning curve and lack communicative skills or the emotional vocabulary, so they will use what is natural for them.” 

Psychiatrist Dr Lim Boon Leng, agreeing that toddlers express their emotions through tantrums as they have limited language capabilities, also points out, “As babies grow into toddlers, they start to be aware of their ‘self’ and to have their own thoughts and wishes”.

Younger children are on a learning curve and lack communicative skills or the emotional vocabulary, so they will use what is natural for them.” 

Hard to believe as it is, know that junior’s tantrums are actually part of their development, and can actually benefit them! Here are eight ways in which your tot’s tantrums are actually a good thing:

1. It is necessary for your little one’s development

It’s normal for kids to throw tantrums, states Dr Lim, who is from Dr BL Lim Centre For Psychological Wellness. “The Terrible Twos ― when toddlers throw tantrums ― is a necessary normal developmental stage. Throwing tantrums show that toddlers are developing well.” He also adds that your little one can only learn how to take control of their emotions after expressing their anger and feelings.

2. It helps them release negative emotions

Koh notes that when your offspring lets go of negative emotions, it stops these feelings from festering and snowballing. In short, throwing tantrums allows junior to let loose any pent-up feelings that could affect them later. Koh adds, “This will prevent future emotional or psychological issues, so that they can move forward with their daily life and tasks.”

3. It shows that your little one is open with you

Dr Lim says, “Tantrums show that children feel safe enough and are comfortable in showing their emotions with their parents.” The fact that your kid kicks up a fuss when they are feeling upset shows that they are comfortable with you!