8 ways to stop yelling at your kid

Follow these expert tips to stay calm in the face of your tot’s bad behaviour.


Parents often yell at their offspring because they are really mad with them for misbehaving.

Yelling is an immediate way to get junior’s attention and also easier than explaining and reasoning with them. After all, your mini-me would also think twice about testing your limits again.

Unfortunately, when you yell at your child for a prolonged period of time, it may have an impact on their health and well-being.

Dr Lim Boon Leng, a psychiatrist from Dr BL Lim Centre for Psychological Wellness, notes that incessant yelling can traumatise your munchkin. “They may become anxious and have nightmares if the verbal abuse is excessive.” What’s more, your child will model your behaviour and shout at you or at his friends.

“They may become anxious and have nightmares if the verbal abuse is excessive.”

Studies have also shown that children who are persistently abused — even just verbally — are more prone to depression and anxiety in adulthood. Dr Lim points out, “They are also more prone to having personality problems and may behave aggressively.”

Even though occasional and infrequent yelling is unlikely to leave much of an impact on your child, you have better ways to relate to your child, or resist the urge to shout. Try these tips…

1) Re-examine your goals and your purpose of yelling Most of the time, you may be screaming at your mini-me because you just needed to vent your frustrations. Dr Lim notes that if you think about the reason for your shrieking, you’ll probably come to the conclusion that yelling isn’t going to help.

2) Recognise the trigger It is very easy to screech at your child because it is a reflex action born out of your irritation. So, try to spot the early signs of anger — it can be a quickened heartrate, furrowed brows, or a hot feeling in your body. Condition yourself to walk away before you feel the urge to shout.