6 things your firstborn wants you to know before the new baby arrives

Excited that baby #2 is arriving soon? Here’s what your firstborn wants to tell you.

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A new baby is exciting for everyone in the family. And while your firstborn may be eager to welcome the new addition, the apple of your eye now has to vie for your attention with a stranger.

This is a big change in your firstborn’s life and they will have to deal with and overcome emotions like jealousy, disappointment and fear. If he is overwhelmed and unable to express his feelings, this may manifest in tantrums and crying bouts. As it isn’t easy transitioning from being an only child to being a big sister or brother, they will need all your love and support to manage their emotions well.

Here’s what your firstborn wants you to know...

Your little one needs constant reassurance that you still love him unconditionally. When he sees you always tending to his new sibling, he may feel that he is not important anymore.

Tell me you still love me

Your little one needs constant reassurance that you still love him unconditionally. When he sees you always tending to his new sibling, he may feel that he is not important anymore. Hug and kiss your firstborn as much as possible to show you love him.

Please be patient with me

Your firstborn won’t be the baby of the family anymore and needs to figure out where he stands in the family. He loves his new sibling but may feel frustrated, fearful and jealous. Unable to put such overwhelming emotions to words, your toddler may end up crying incessantly, throwing tantrums or clinging to you 24/7 like a koala to show you how he feels. Before you snap at him in frustration or anger, remember that he is reacting this way because he doesn’t know how to handle his emotions. Show more patience and discuss his concerns with him.

I need some “us-time”

You used to spend one-on-one time with him, so he misses not only your bright and chirpy manner, but your full attention. Try to set aside quality time for you to reconnect with your older child by handing the new baby over to a family member for a short period of time daily. Doing things that he used to love doing together will make him feel special and that he still has your attention.