Boost your toddler’s sense of self

Busy? Don’t brush off your chatty cherub! You can boost their confidence with effective communication.


Ever wondered why, when you visit any playground, you’ll find tiny thrill-seekers hanging upside down on monkey bars or racing around leading packs of friends, just as you’ll notice shy tots who are too scared to even try the swings? As parents, we want to foster self-confidence in our children while giving them the right tools to solve life’s problems.

          Why is self-esteem so important? Award-winning youth motivational speaker and author Jeff Yalden explains that this is a personal evaluation of your own self-worth, so low self-esteem can develop in childhood and continue throughout adulthood.

          Depressed children or those who feel incompetent find it hard to realise their full potential. Not only that, they often use poor judgment to make decisions and are unable to maintain positive peer relationships. On the other hand, a person with too much self-esteem may also be a narcissist.

Children with low self-esteem may use poor judgement to make decisions and are unable to maintain positive peer relationships.


Lay the foundation for healthy self-esteem

This begins in the months following birth, when infants form emotional bonds with their caregivers. A baby interacts with his caregiver when he is fed, comforted, and when he engages in play or other activities. These are vital building blocks to developing positive self-esteem and social relationships.

          As junior grows, experiences and new perceptions cause his self-esteem to fluctuate. It expands when people acknowledge and show an appreciation for his feelings, so that he realises that he is worthy of being loved. So to boost your little one’s sense of self, use words of encouragement and positive actions, says Yalden:

1. Always be positive.

2. Always be reassuring.

3. Do allow your child to fail, and use it as a teachable moment.

4. Be consistent.

5. Explore potential strengths and passions.

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