9 things only you’ll know if you’re TTC

Dreading your period? Baby-making diet driving you crazy? Welcome to the crazy world of couples who are trying to conceive!

Some couples have discovered that making a baby isn’t as easy as jumping into bed, doing the horizontal mambo and ta-da, you’re preggers. Indeed, female and male infertility is increasing in tandem with the rising trend of late-in-life parents in recent years.

Needless to say, couples who have problems conceiving find themselves dealing with the highs and lows of infertility. For almost two years now, Janice Tan, 32, and her husband have been TTC (trying to conceive) ― with little luck.

Tan says “TTC can be a mentally, emotionally, physically and even financially draining experience when you are struggling with infertility.” She adds that it’s even more disheartening every time she comes across pregnancy announcements on social media from her pals who are sharing news that they are expecting their third or fourth child.

“TTC can be an emotionally, mentally, physically and even financially draining experience when you are struggling with infertility.”

Couples who have been TTC for a while may seek recourse in assisted reproductive treatment. The birth of a much-longed-for baby isn’t always the happy ending these couples experience even if they attempt In-vitro fertilisation (IVF) and Intra-uterine insemination (IUI). In the meantime, TTC couples face common challenges ― these may sound familiar if you’re one of them…

1) Periods are your number one enemy

A missed period, tender breasts and fatigue are the most common signs that you’re expecting. So, when you get your period, it’s like you’ve failed an exam you studied very hard for.

2) You’ll eventually get over the “Are you sure it’s not him?” debate

Fact is, both parties have a part to play in conception and your inability to conceive should not be about assigning blame. Although friends may try to convince you that your fertility crisis could lie with your spouse, forget the finger-pointing, keep your eyes on the prize and just keep trying.

3) You’ll buy pregnancy and ovulation tests in bulk

You’ll stockpile pregnancy and ovulation kits like they’re a doomsday necessity whenever these go on sale at the pharmacy. Nor did realise that deciding between a mascara and a pregnancy kit could leave you so fraught.

4) BFN is a suggested term on your smartphone

While TTC, you’ll find yourself peeing on a stick (POAS) more often than you care to take note. All this while, you’re hoping that you don’t get a big fat negative (BFN). At the same time, you’re also asking your mummy pals online for ideas on what to do during the 2-week wait (2WW) following ovulation. No surprise that your smartphone has twigged to all your texting habits.

Coming right up… Five more things only TTC couples experience