Sex may be the last thing on the minds of expectant parents and who can blame them? Your mind will be filled with countless things to do and baby stuff to buy in the short run-up to welcoming a brand-new member to the family.
You’ll probably wonder what the cost of giving birth is, then fret about how much money you’ll need to raise your child. Still, a bun in the oven is no reason to let physical intimacy be put on the back burner.
“If there is no scientific evidence that sex causes preterm labour, there is [really] no need to take precautions.”
But before you leap on each other like amorous antelope, keep in mind that sex isn’t advisable in certain scenarios. Dr Peter Chew, an obstetrician and gynaecologist, lists situations when sex with your spouse may be unsafe:
* A history of repeated miscarriages.
* Risks of premature birth.
* A low-lying placenta.
So, keep the intimacy alive during these exciting period by following these gynae-approved guidelines...
1) Sex won’t harm your baby as long as you’re gentle
The amniotic sac, the uterus’ strong muscles and the thick mucus plug that seals the cervix guards your little one from infection. During intercourse, the penis won’t go beyond the vagina either, so sex won’t harm your baby.
Incidentally, you may worry as you’ve heard that prostaglandin — a hormone found in sperm — can stimulate the cervix and cause contractions. You may also have heard that orgasms have also been known to trigger contractions.
Dr Chew notes that while there are anecdotal cases of premature births triggered by sex, the scientific evidence is weak. And while orgasms may cause mild uterine contractions, he explains that such contractions are “generally temporary and weak”. “If there is no scientific evidence that sex causes preterm labour, there is [really] no need to take precautions,” he advises.
2) When your wife says she’s too tired, she is too tired
Pregnancy is taxing on your wife’s body, after all, almost all of her body’s resources are creating a human. Extra progesterone surges into her blood supply in early pregnancy, which makes her feel tired and sleepy. Let’s not forget that morning sickness can turn make early pregnancy a nightmare for her. Dr Chew adds that other concerns, such as the safety of her pregnancy, abdominal discomfort or false or Braxton-Hicks contractions will make her lose interest in doing the horizontal. So don’t be surprised — or offended — if all she wants to do is turn in by 8pm.
3) Her sex drive may not show signs of slowing down
Dr Chew advises that some women might have a heightened libido throughout their pregnancy, while others might have zero interest in doing the rumpy pumpy with you. “[Blame it on the] hormonal changes, which will affect their sexual desire during pregnancy.” Some reasons for her enhanced sex drive include:
* A heightened sensation from the increased blood flow to the pelvic area, which results in the engorgement of the genitals, which, in turn, may increase pleasure during sex.
* Increased vaginal lubrication may help during sex.
* Their breasts may also be more sensitive to touch.
As for you, you’ll be amazed by your wife’s changing body ― her figure is curvier, thanks to a more bountiful breasts and wider hips in preparation of childbirth. So, is it any wonder you think she’s hotter than ever!
Did we mention that you won’t have to worry about birth control for a long time ― a freeing feeling, no?
Appreciate the spontaneity and frequency of these pregnancy romps now, as you’ll soon realise that her nether regions are a no-go zone after she delivers for some time. Also, by then, bubba’s presence may just put paid to those grand plans of yours to get amorous!
“The second trimester [is also when] the intensity and ease for achieving an orgasm is more intense.”
4) Most women feel friskier during the second trimester
For the majority of expectant mums, their sex drive peaks during the second trimester, Dr Chew states. “The second trimester [is also when] the intensity and ease for achieving an orgasm is more intense.” However, you should note that it can vary from person to person, so constant communication with your partner is vital, so both know how things are progressing.
5) It’s time to get adventurous
Some of your favourite pre-pregnancy sex positions may no longer be comfortable for your wife, so be bold and try some pregnancy-friendly positions, instead. Certain sex positions are also more comfortable for her when she’s in her last trimester, advises Dr Chew. These include: Spooning, scissors, woman on top and [the leap frog]. Most of all, make sure to keep your communication channels open and check that she is comfortable.
6) Their noses are really powerful
Thanks to pregnancy hormones, your missus’ sense of smell is in overdrive. So, take note if your aftershave is making her gag. For now, it might help to switch to unscented toiletries such as body wash and deodorant.
7) Keep telling her how sexy she looks
Your pregnant wife’s body will be changing, so as to accommodate your growing baby. So, she’ll likely feel insecure about her body and her self-esteem may even take a beating. Boost her mood by complimenting her on how good she looks.
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